The Spiritual Connection
Bismillaah
Ever felt the world was going to collapse on your head and nothing you could do would help the situation? Like the pressure was being applied to you, and you were going to burst any second. You would think, "Wow, their having a bad day.. what did I do?" Or you think that everyone has a problem they need to fix...so when will they just get over it?" But you, you don't have anything to do with this mess of things. Ofcourse you didn't do anything wrong..or did you?
Ever felt the world was going to collapse on your head and nothing you could do would help the situation? Like the pressure was being applied to you, and you were going to burst any second. You would think, "Wow, their having a bad day.. what did I do?" Or you think that everyone has a problem they need to fix...so when will they just get over it?" But you, you don't have anything to do with this mess of things. Ofcourse you didn't do anything wrong..or did you?
"One of the Salaf said, “I disobey Allâh to find its effect in the way my animal behaves and my wife.”
Sometimes the effect of our evil deeds come right back to hit us in the face from those nearest to us. The disobedience we have done, no matter how small of big is thrown back at us in the most interesting of ways. And its usually from the family. You may think that they are the one with the problem. "Why do they have to lash their anger out on me? I didn't even do anything to them." And take into consideration, this type of expression of displeasure is usually not shown to you. So you begin to wonder, " what did I do wrong?"
If you think deeply enough and track back a day or two (And this might take a while to figure out) You'll come to see, that you may have slacked in your obligations to Allah here and there, and there too. Good to keep journal so you know exactly where you went wrong. We somehow forget the bad things we do.
So you realize. I disobeyed Allah. It could have been just by sleeping through a prayer. Not a fardh, but a sunnah prayer. Don't take those lightly guys..some of them are there to protect you from hellfire. And if you miss them, then may Allah help you. May Allah protect us. Particularly the sunnah before zuhur.
Umm Habibah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "Whoever observes the practice of performing four Rak`ah before Zuhr prayer and four after the Zuhr prayer, Allah will shield him against the Fire (of Hell).
[Abu Dawud and At-Tirmidhi].
You dont want to be exposed to that. Not then and not even a taste of it here. Its those things we over look in our lives like prayer that can effect our connection with Allah. And then we see the effects through conflicts within the family.
But if we still think they (the family) are the problem and we didn't do anything wrong in regard to our responsiblity to Allah, then consider this. Our relationships with family give us sign of our relationship with Allah.
the family is one of the ways a person can get close to Allah. And it is also a means where we can measure and assess our standing with Allah. Maintaing family relationships, keeping it nice and loving is a sign that you are on good terms with Allah. Being mean, constantly bickering to the point where you want to cut them off, or have already cut them off, May Allah protect us, may mean otherwise.
Abu Hurayrah (radi Allahu anhu) said: “The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: ‘Allah created the universe, and when He had finished, kinship (al-rahm) stood up and said, “This is the standing up of one who seeks Your protection from being cut off.” Allah said, “Yes, would it please you if I were to take care of those who take care of you and cut off those who cut you off?” It said, “Of course.” Allah said, “Then your prayer is granted.”’”
The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Recite, if you wish (interpretation of the meaning): ‘Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight.’ [Muhammad 47: 22-23].”
[Sahih Muslim]
So when they get angry at you for the most strangest reasons, randomly, out of nowhere, in way you've never seen, don't think they have problem they need to fix. Think, "I have a problem I need to fix." This is a sign, warning bells should going off in your head. Ask yourself, "Did I displease Allah? Did I leave off something that had to be done (Fardh/Sunnah/Nawaafil) If not, then still look deeper into your actions. Your family is an indicator of your standing with Allah.
You'll find that when you find those mistakes, make tawbah and correct your actions, the hurricane calms down as if nothing happenned the day before. The way your treated is different too. Now their smiling at you, and when's the last time you seen that? So may come to realize, "Maybe Im the problem in the world." And If I fix that, wonders can happen.
Barakallah feeekum
Abu Hurayrah (radi Allahu anhu) said: “The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: ‘Allah created the universe, and when He had finished, kinship (al-rahm) stood up and said, “This is the standing up of one who seeks Your protection from being cut off.” Allah said, “Yes, would it please you if I were to take care of those who take care of you and cut off those who cut you off?” It said, “Of course.” Allah said, “Then your prayer is granted.”’”
The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Recite, if you wish (interpretation of the meaning): ‘Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight.’ [Muhammad 47: 22-23].”
[Sahih Muslim]
So when they get angry at you for the most strangest reasons, randomly, out of nowhere, in way you've never seen, don't think they have problem they need to fix. Think, "I have a problem I need to fix." This is a sign, warning bells should going off in your head. Ask yourself, "Did I displease Allah? Did I leave off something that had to be done (Fardh/Sunnah/Nawaafil) If not, then still look deeper into your actions. Your family is an indicator of your standing with Allah.
You'll find that when you find those mistakes, make tawbah and correct your actions, the hurricane calms down as if nothing happenned the day before. The way your treated is different too. Now their smiling at you, and when's the last time you seen that? So may come to realize, "Maybe Im the problem in the world." And If I fix that, wonders can happen.
Barakallah feeekum
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