Honesty

Emotional vulnerability is what you need in any good relationship with your family and friends and everything else. The layers have to come down. Honesty has to be there, open communication, open mindedness in fact.

A healthy relationship is where you can openly speak your mind with out fear of critism or disapproval. We keep ALOT of things to ourselves, even those things tht need to be mentioned sometimes. Why? We are afraid of what the other person will say. What they will think. If they will no longer love or respect us anymore. So we don't say jack.

But those unspoken things eventually find their way out eventually. They build up gradually leading up to a full blown heated argument that barely ever ends nice. Because you just couldn't keep it all in anymore. And that's kinda natural. We weren't meant to harbor these kinds of things within us.

The thing that us humans have that's made us so specialized is our ability to communicate by speech and gesture the things that are important to us. How we can engage in a civililized manner that optimizes any kind of emotional connection between one person and another. Communication.

But sadly, that one thing that's made us so unique is the one thing were kinda not taking advantage of. Yes, there's time for silence and then there's time to express you thoughts, your feelings, your emotions, whatever is on your mind, especially if something is bothering you.

But we're here too afraid of what some other person may think of us. How about if we didnt care so much about another persons validation. How about we just expressed our thoughts in the most respectful way possible. And then didnt care too much about whether we'd be liked anymore.

In fact, I've noticed that it's the honest people that I love. Alot. I love to hear from them, their thoughts and expressions, just everything, because I know I can trust them. I know they are not to here to please anyone and they'll tell you how it is, what it is.

Honest people bring a kind of relief to me. It kinda helps me and encourages me to be more of myself. These honest people I mean. What is it, authenticity? Yeah. Their authenticity is inspiring. I learn SO much from honest people, sometimes even more than the person with the degree or other professional kinda learning.


You know we learn, and want to learn from the people we trust and love right? More than anything. If you ever wanna have a good influence on someone, your students or just anyone and general, you have to make sure that the people you want to have an influence on love and trust you. It get's easier after that.


But yeah. Honest, open minded communication. We need more of that. Share what is on your mind when you feel it's best.  If you havent spoken to a friend or family member in awhile, be the brave one to start off were you left off, and if there was some bad blood between you, bring the attention to you, meaning begin by explaining how you feel with, 'I really feel....' Instead of. "You made me feel.." Less attention on what they have done. More attention on you and how you feel.

Night :)