Expectations
You can find this in family relationships, among friends, besties, any kind of relationship, you name it. And this unrealistic expectation can ruin things. You could have an amazing relationship with someone. But then that moment comes when you expected them to be there for you. You thought theyd show up, to visit you when you were were sick, to have your back when you were in trouble, to just say hey and greet you randomly when you were lonely. You expected. They never came through. And now you feel hurt.
But honestly. Who should you be more upset with? Yourself for expecting too much, or upset with them..?
Its not really fair to be upset with anyone but yourself really. Because you were the one who somehow thought that the world kinda revolved around you haha, isnt it. Isnt it a little too self centred to think that people will always be there for you.. Perhaps we forget the people we love and those that love us too, have lives, have things to deal with, daily, that they have their own stresses...Which we didnt take into consideration because we were so warped into our own problems
Its a kind of selfishness to expect from others really.... It would be better if we were the ones who showed a bit more concern for the ones around us. They as well would like the support too sometimes.
Its rare to find someone who will always be there for you. Someone who will text you immediately when you have a problem that needs to be fixed, when you need support in the now. We have those friends that will get back to us days later haha. And thinking well, they probably have other issues their dealing with so at the moment they couldnt get back to you asap, And its understandable. We all have things that worry us, things that need our focus.
Whats amazing though, is having those people who are there for you even when they have other things theyre dealing with, and even still they still make you a top priority. Those are rare beautiful souls that I wish were around more often. We cant forget to appreciate these ones. Its not fair not to show them appreciation.
Although our hearts smile from the thought of these people, sometimes we dont express just how much happiness they bring us for being there for us and supporting us when we needed it most. But how would they ever know you were thankful if you never showed thanks.
Gratitude is more than saying thankyou. But we can at least start with saying thankyou.
Whats sad is when we take these kind souls for granted and expect even more from them without giving in return or saying thankyou and showing appreciation for just how wonderful they are.
It takes a generous soul to give importance to other peoples concerns especially when they have concerns of their own.
May Allah reward these ones and give them what makes them happy for the happiness they bring others.
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