Ihsaan

Relationships. One of the hottest topics out there. Its always about finding true love and the perfect mate. You know,finding that person that'll sweep you off your feet..But Im starting to think that maybe, just maybe that's a little too much pressure to put on one person. To expect that they are going to make you happy and know the right things to do, all the time to keep you happy.

 But how about we learned the right things to do to keep a healthy happy relationships. How about, for once we look to ourselves and ask, "what do I do for this relationship?" I mean the attention cant always be put on the other person..they might not always be there doing those "right" things when you need them to..

And another thing I realized is people, most of time I mean, will only give back to you what you give to them. Yeah randomly you'll meet an exceptionally nice person and wonder what you did to get such nice treatment. But that wouldn't be a normal thing. Usually you get what you give. In all relationships. 

There's a thing I think the majority of us have forgotten and its a concept called, "Ihsaan" or doing what is better, more excellent and good. Basically it means doing better to others than what is done to you. Its always tit or tat. But what about ihsaan, what about greeting others with a smile and going that extra mile to make sure they feel welcome, and appreciated. What about speaking kind loving words to each other. What about holding back the negativity and seeing things in a more positive light. What about just loving more in general and doing more to other that what is done to you?

We can create a paradise in our relationships if we only tried and in a word like this with all the turmoil and stress its nice to be able to have a paradise of our own, a place we can always go back to, a place that is the coolness of our eyes, a place that would bring joy and comfort.