Jealousy.

Insecurities. Ever realize that this is probably the reason why we get jealous and overprotective? Its interesting.  I think if we communicated a bit more, there wouldn't be a need for insecurities. But we don't so we're forever left guessing, "Does she really love me?.."Maybe she loves him more than she loves me.".."Who is this girl anyways and why is he always mentioning her?"

The questions don't stop. Its an inner dialogue that goes on and on. We dont know how to talk to each other anymore. Forget talking, we dont even communicate those words that are so important to us. When was the last time you actually told the person that means the most to you, your mother how much you loved her? When's the last time you told someone you loved just how special they were to you and how much they meant to you and how much you loved them?

We don't say these things. We just dont. We find it awkward or just unnecessary maybe only saying it when we think the relationship is about to crumble, we say it just to get things back to normal. But other than that, nope. Just busy doing you. Thinking about something else. Thinking probably thoughts of your loved one, thinking maybe they really dont love you all that much.. Its strange the things we think about but never say. Its strange.

Honest communication is a dying art, if not already dead. Is it really that hard to let someone know how much you love them? Dont you think that would save a lot time and energy when the fights come. Dont you think these small acts of kindness will be a foundation for your relationship when things get tough? Because they will get tough for sure. But there needs to something to lean back on when you fall. And remembering the kind acts your loved one has done for you can really put out the flame sometimes, remembering that they did tell you this one time that they actually loved you is comforting and helps remove the doubts that might be festering. But if there is hardly any acts of kindness between you two, what happens then?

And if you really care about someone and if you feel that they maybe me feeling jealous, do what you can to assure them that there's nothing to be jealous of. Make things clear if you can so as to remove all doubts. There's gotta be clarity in any good relationship.

If a person has chosen someone as their life partner, there's reasons they have. Perhaps they found something in their character that was admirable and not easy to find, maybe they were attracted to their and beauty of heart and intelligence of mind. Maybe they were taken by their depth. Whatever it was, these were unique qualities they've seen in them. And a person doesnt give that up easily. Because qualities like that are precious. Not many would come close a person like this and if they know this about themselves, they'd never have to ever have doubts or feel jealous. You love a person for who they are. Knowing this, a person would never have to feel insecure. Because they know they have it all and more. So who could come close?

But if you never tell someone what they mean to you, the insecurities will grow until everything falls apart. So all I can say is be open and appreciative to one another. It goes along way.