Search for the Soul Mate

Bismillaah

Oh my God, its been too long since I've written. But tonight I feel inspired...So whose ready for this?

The Search for the Soul Mate

If there's anything I want to take from this world, and enter the next life with, its my soul mate. I cant feel as if I've completely lived, with satisfaction until I found my soul mate. And funny, I still havent, although one always has someone in mind, you never actually know until...well you'll find out soon.

And its interesting how a person can easily fall in love with someone. It just happens. I dont know, when you least expect it. Sometimes it starts with a sweeping suggestion..During salaat. And its the strangest things because thats when it all starts. The wheels begin there in motion. And if it seems like a good idea, you delve in trying to find whatever will show you more about this person.

Amazing how us as people have our other halves, somewhere out in the world. And we're not complete physically, spiritually, and sometimes even socio-economically until we've found this person. Like even from an islamic perspective, the one who marries has completed HALF of his religion. Just take that in for a second. Half your religion is completed just by getting married. And the rest, all you have to do to complete it fully is to have Taqwa of Allah, consciousness of Him. Yes, there's the responsibilities and the whatever, but if someone has taqwa of Allah, those responsibilities will come easy IA.

Anywho, falling in love is another thing. Its such a beautiful feeling, a feeling that sometimes gives life meaning....Our search to feel loved and be loved, probably one of the most strongest of emotional needs. Finding the right person is so important because it might just mean that THAT emotional need will be covered. We have enough love less marriages...So finding that is something to hold on to. I dont mean sexual love by the way, thats some other level. I mean the kind of love where your genuinely concerned for the other, where you respect them, want the best for them and stuff like that.

This is obviously going to be a rant, since I dont know where the direction to this will go, and its a nice way to get all my feelings out there. Maybe I can sleep like a baby tonight Insha Allah.

But I just realized that what keeps love going is a thing almost like selflessness. Not complete selflessness where you wither away and become bones hahaha. But a kind of selflessness that gives your special one the attention, and love and respect they deserve. To give them the importance they deserve to feel. And it doesnt even have to be a romantic thing. It could be a simple as giving them your full attention when they're talking to you. So full you've even turned your phone off and got it out of sight. So full you turned off the Television. Just letting them know that as of the momment, when their talking, there is nothing more important than what they're telling you right now. That can do wonders to a relationship acutally...wonders..Because relationships blossom from respect. Most people think its from sexual love..that comes second. Respect is key guys, for men AND for women. Don't think he'll want anything to do with you if you dont respect him as a person.

I think nowadays we're more concerned about getting someone than keeping someone. What happenned to maintaining the relationships. Where's the patience and understanding and tolerance for each other. Its easy to get someone, but keeping them is another kind of level.