Fardawsa Yusuf

Insecurities. Ever realize that this is probably the reason why we get jealous and overprotective? Its interesting.  I think if we communicated a bit more, there wouldn't be a need for insecurities. But we don't so we're forever left guessing, "Does she really love me?.."Maybe she loves him more than she loves me.".."Who is this girl anyways and why is he always mentioning her?" The questions don't stop. Its an inner dialogue that goes on and on. We dont know how to talk to each other anymore. Forget talking, we dont even communicate those words that are so important to us. When was the last time you actually told the person that means the most to you, your mother how much you loved her? When's the last time you told someone you loved just how special they were to you and how much they meant to you and how much you loved them? We don't say these things. We just dont. We find it awkward or just unnecessary maybe only saying it when ...

Bismillah I've noticed a trend in our community that kinda worries me a little. It seems that we're lacking a bit in the knowledge of our religion. A lot of us are caught in Fiqhi debates of whether wearing niqab is wajib or not when our own Aqeedah is shaky. We're focusing on those minor aspects of the religion and forgetting about the more serious matters, the bigger picture. Matters some of us aren't even we aware of. When Islam was in its early days, you'll come to notice that a lot of the time and emphasis was placed on the Aqeedah part of the religion; knowing about Allah, his names, his attributes, what constituted as belief and disbelief, what it meant to be in the fold of Islam. etc. Emphasis was placed on Belief first before the laws were introduced and implemented. In fact the majority of the laws came a decade after the message first began. And there is wisdom behind that. We got it the other way around tho. Were busy trying to force laws down p...

Bismillaah A night or two ago I was talking with my sisters about, you know our future plans and the stuff  we wanted to do in our lives differently from now on and so we did it together hoping that maybe our ideas could inspire each other to come up with different ideas. And I always like when we can do these things collectively because the ideas that come out of them are just phenomenal sometimes. Of all the things that were written, one thing was mentioned that really caught my eye. It was a suggestion from my youngest sister, well the youngest in the family and her idea was absolutely fantastic. She suggested we put more zest into our lives. You know how in movies things are exaggerated? But that's what makes it so fun to watch. The enthusiasm. Everything is just like given more energy. Thoughts, words, gestures that you normally wouldnt see around are expressed and accepted and appreciated wholeheartedly. Kinda like how all the ways we'd like to be treated are what ...

Take care of yourself now when your still young because there will come a time when you realize that nobody really cared anyways. And if they did care, they had their own things to worry about. You'll meet a few exceptional people that will go out their way to you they show you they care, those exceptional people being your parents and close family may God bless them, but the majority wont because they're caught up in the rat race of life. They wont even notice a thing. So take care of yourself, not just because no one will notice when you fall apart, but because there are others who are in worse off condition than you who need your help and support. Who will look after their needs, especially when the majority of people are distracted anyways. Who will remember the people of Gaza, the people of Somalia, the people suffering in other parts of the world that nobody has even come to realize yet. Health, is a blessing most fail to appreciate. And when you fall sick, then you...

You know, I never really appreciated this one thing before. I never really appreciated the fact that the main criteria in choosing a mate should be one's taqwa. Because I didnt really fully understand its implications.. And I've learned that its not about facial features of body size at all. In the beginning obviously its about the looks you know, that's what keeps you attracted. Because if there's no attraction, quite frankly, you dont really wanna have anything to do with them, meaning in pursuing them...for marriage. But if they are attractive to you, then okay, we have a good start. And please, let me stress the importance of remaining attractive for your husband or wife. It does matter. It really does. Especially when you have whatever is going on out there, with the actresses and models and the whatever else, you gotta keep up. You cannot allow yourself to be outdone by what they have out there, because most of time, whats out there is not real . Its pinche...

Relationships. One of the hottest topics out there. Its always about finding true love and the perfect mate. You know,finding that person that'll sweep you off your feet..But Im starting to think that maybe, just maybe that's a little too much pressure to put on one person. To expect that they are going to make you happy and know the right things to do, all the time to keep you happy.  But how about we learned the right things to do to keep a healthy happy relationships. How about, for once we look to ourselves and ask, "what do I do for this relationship?" I mean the attention cant always be put on the other person..they might not always be there doing those " right" things when you need them to.. And another thing I realized is people, most of time I mean, will only give back to you what you give to them. Yeah randomly you'll meet an exceptionally nice person and wonder what you did to get such nice treatment. But that wouldn't be a norm...

Bismillaah Its only been a day or two since I last wrote but it feels like forever.. I don't know where I should start, should I start with the crazy dreams I've getting lately or the hell I've been through this week or why I've been through all of this this week pin pointing where exactly I went wrong..haha there's so much I learned this week its crazy and hey maybe it might benefit a few I don't know, but I definitely have to document this so I don't make the same mistake again. It all began last Thursday evening. Thursday day actually. As usual I had a lesson to prepare for during mid day. The time I'd be having my nap. But foolishly I decided you know what, theres not enough time anyways so I'll rest after the lesson, which was after asr. So exhausted as I was I did the lesson, my eyes dying because I didn't sleep the night before so I was just dragging myself through the day it was crazy haha. So hamdulillah. The lessons over and its tim...