Fardawsa Yusuf

    Being human, we will always encounter situations which can bring out the worst in us. It could be from the slightest of things. If we’ve had a long, stressful day, it takes one thing to make us lose it completely. And the saddest part is that sometimes, it’s those we love that we unleash this hideousness. The feeling of frustration and even anger is something so natural, however we must control ourselves when we feel angry because this is what shaytan loves to see, us acting on our anger, because from anger, the most destructive of actions take place, and innocent people can get hurt. In a Chinese proverb it is said If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape one hundred days of sorrow.   Alhamdulillah, Allah sent Rasulallah (s) to perfect our moral character. On the authority of Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him): A man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said, “Advice me.” He the Prophet said, “Do n...

It takes more than beauty and appeal to keep a relationship going. You wouldn't think that nowadays considering how many people are investing their time and money into these expensive beauty products to make themselves more “attractive.” Of course makeup and self grooming are essential deal breakers. But is that the only important thing? If we as people put more time in investing in perfecting our inner realities we would excel as people, and our relationships would be the proof of that. In fact this excessive amount of outer beautification is a bit damaging. Not only does it corrode at the person’s self esteem when they are not wearing the foundation or other make-up, you will begin to see a narcissistic image playing out. Some women do this thing where no matter how much attention they are given, they are not satisfied. It as if the world should  stand and gaze at their beauty for them to feel at ease. Yes, we get it, you’re gorgeous, but the whole world doesn’t need ...

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِي Wisdom is the ability to apply one's knowledge correctly. It's knowing when, how and where to say or do something. Knowledge is the collection of information. Wisdom is the ability to take that information and properly apply it.   Wisdom is important, especially for those wishing to give da'wah because people are different and one must know the proper way to approach others if one wishes to have a good effect or influence on others. For example, if someone is new to the deen, more tolerance and patience would be shown to them. They need the understanding and some leeway to grow. Someone who has been practising for many years and is aware of more of the sharee'ah would not be given such leeway ofcourse because more is expected of him. For example the story of the Bedouin Arab who asked Rasulallah (S) about the 5 pillars. Narrated Talha bin 'Ubaidullah: 'A Bedouin with unkempt hair came to Allah's...

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْم Ways to attain Khushu in our prayers As we've discussed in the previous blog, entry called, "The coverin g," the condition of our hearts is one of the reasons we cannot focus the way we want to in Salaah. But, with every sickness is a cure. And the best of remedy of all times, is just precaution and the knowledge of what to stay away from. Lets get into a number of ways we can help improve our concentration and khushu' in Salaah. 1) Fixing our eating habits There is a hadith that mentions that the worst thing we can fill is our stomachs. Miqdam ibn Ma’d reported: I heard the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, say, “ There is no vessel which the son of Adam can fill that is more evil than his stomach, for it is enough for him to take a few bites in order to straighten his back. Yet if he is overcome by appetite, then he may fill it with a third of food, a third of drink, and a third of...

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْم Something I cannot begin to stress is contentment of the heart. So many of us are lacking it. And so many of us are looking for it. And so many of us cannot find it! And some of us have given up. It's crazy. It's crazy how we are responsible for our heart's  contentment. And if we aren't finding it, we are definitely looking in the wrong place. And we're probably doing something wrong too. Take this for example. A man is married to a beautiful woman. He loves her, and she loves him. A lot. They have two wonderful children. He has a great job, lives in an awesome neighbourhood, drives an amazing wip. He has it. He also does what he can to pray and fast and give in charity. But there's one weakness he has. His love for strange women. And when I mean strange, I don't mean unattractive weird women. The women are gorgeous of course. They're just not his. And don't get me wrong, his wife is a babe. She has ever...

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْم Sometimes we are caught in a state of emptiness. There's this hole we feel, like we're missing something, and we will find whatever we can to fill it and so we can feel whole once again. Some of us try to fill that hole by eating. We'll eat, and eat and eat haha. We'll even eat beyond our capacity, anything just so we will no longer have the emptiness lingering. And yes, we know. We're going to see the weight sooner or later. But that's okay. Some of us also try to fill that emptiness by seeking validation from others. We want to know that we are prized. Or atleast liked. We want to know that others people find us attractive. So we'll post countless selfies on Instagram, or any other social media platform. We want to feel like we are admired, like there is something we have and others want it. And when we know others want what we have, then the feeling of emptiness is partially covered up. Artificially of course. Th...

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